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December 9, 2024
Nelia Joyce
My Christmas wish

My life took an interesting turn: unexpected but ever so intriguing. When I first got involved in behavioral therapy, I never imagined where it would take me. It started as a simple curiosity, a desire to understand how I can better support parents, especially those parenting children with disruptive behaviors.  Along the way, I crossed paths with some amazing therapists and professionals who specialize in Applied Behavior Analysis. Fast forward to today, and I find myself working in a school setting with children on the autism spectrum. It’s been and continues to be one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.

 

Some days, I feel a deep sense of shame as I realize how much I take for granted in my own life —simple things like being able to communicate effectively, my health or navigating the world without constant struggle. But most days, I’m simply in awe of what I get to witness and be a part of.

 

My Christmas wish
September 13, 2023
Nelia Joyce
Color outside the lines! We were created to be ...

When we are being creative, our brains release dopamine, which is an anti-depressant. While this makes us ‘feel good’, engaging in creative activities can also boost self-esteem, reduce symptoms of anxiety, and increase feelings of happiness and contentment. Creativity is linked to several mental health benefits, and yet…

We learn to color inside the lines and unlearn to think outside the box. We tell kids to stop asking why why why? We over-expose and over-structure, to the point where there’s little time to reflect or to be alone with one’s thoughts. We fill our days to the point where there is no free time. 

Did you know that non-creative behavior is learned? It is not our natural inclination.

Color outside the lines! We were created to be creative...
August 24, 2023
Nelia Joyce
Temperaments: which of the 4 are you?

In my earlier coaching days, I met a teenager who, to his mother’s dismay, studied by making tiny notes on post-it’s and sticking them to the ceiling in his room.  When crunch time came, he would lie on the floor with binoculars and revise his work. 😊

I find it fascinating how we are all uniquely designed.  Have you noticed that children who grew up in the same household, with the same upbringing can be so different in how they approach life, make decisions and handle situations?  

Temperaments: which of the 4 are you?
September 1, 2021
Nelia Joyce
Bearing burdens

The COVID-19 pandemic has shaken every aspect of society. Concerns about mental health and substance use are at an all-time high. People stress and worry about contracting the virus, job losses, how long this pandemic will last, as well as the devastating loss of loved ones due to the universal crisis. Amid the fear, worry, and uncertainty, each day seems to bring more challenges than the day before.

We are all suffering. And though my story is not nearly as bad as some of yours, I experienced, quite possibly, the worst 2 months ever.

Bearing burdens
June 2, 2021
Nelia Joyce
When life happens

Once upon a time, in a land far away, there was a Prince who fought ferociously for the love of his life. He defeated dragons, crossed oceans, and conquered kingdoms. His love astounded her, he made her his Princess and they lived happily ever after.

So, we are told…

When life happens
Nelia Joyce
February 17, 2021

Oh please, enough with the “it is what it is”..!

Nelia Joyce
February 17, 2021
Oh please, enough with the “it is what it is”..!

Just once I would like to stuff a dirty sock into the mouth of the person who first said; “It is what it is”. If there is a phrase that I loathe, this would be it. What a fatalistic, shrug-your-shoulders, awful approach.

Tagged: content, it is what it is, attitude, gratitude, choose reaction, coping skills, laughter

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Nelia Joyce
January 3, 2021

2021 - get your New Year's resolutions done...

Nelia Joyce
January 3, 2021
2021 - get your New Year's resolutions done...

My husband is a keen Wim Hof fan. For those who are not familiar with Wim, Wikipedia lists him as the Iceman, a Dutch extreme athlete noted for his ability to withstand freezing temperatures. Wim has set Guinness World Records for swimming under ice …

Tagged: resolutions, motivation, Wim Hof, extrinsic motivation, intrinsic motivation, self motivation

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Nelia Joyce
October 12, 2020

When all I see is me

Nelia Joyce
October 12, 2020
When all I see is me

Most of us are familiar with the Greek mythology of Narcissus, the beautiful young man who fell in love with his own reflection. He became obsessed to the point that he would not leave the water for fear of losing sight of his reflection, at which he stared until he died.

Tagged: self-absorbed, self-esteem, self-worth, self-preoccupied, Narcissistic, purpose

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Nelia Joyce
September 15, 2020

We grow when we learn to say no

Nelia Joyce
September 15, 2020
We grow when we learn to say no

No. Such a strong little word. Yet so many of us seem to have an absolute apprehension to saying “no”. Sometimes we even find ourselves thinking “no, no, no” but then still blurt out “yes.”

Tagged: how to say no, boundaries, limits, healthy boundaries, say no, helpful tips for saying no

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Nelia Joyce
July 15, 2020

A few good men

Nelia Joyce
July 15, 2020
A few good men

There is this story most of us grew up with – the parable of the good Samaritan. The guy who went out of his way to help a destitute stranger, someone who couldn’t repay or ever thank him adequately. Well I met him, on a hot day in Mississippi. June 30th, to be precise.

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