Nelia Joyce
My Christmas wish

My life took an interesting turn: unexpected but ever so intriguing. When I first got involved in behavioral therapy, I never imagined where it would take me. It started as a simple curiosity, a desire to understand how I can better support parents, especially those parenting children with disruptive behaviors.  Along the way, I crossed paths with some amazing therapists and professionals who specialize in Applied Behavior Analysis. Fast forward to today, and I find myself working in a school setting with children on the autism spectrum. It’s been and continues to be one of the most rewarding experiences of my life.

 

Some days, I feel a deep sense of shame as I realize how much I take for granted in my own life —simple things like being able to communicate effectively, my health or navigating the world without constant struggle. But most days, I’m simply in awe of what I get to witness and be a part of.

 

My Christmas wish
Nelia Joyce
Color outside the lines! We were created to be ...

When we are being creative, our brains release dopamine, which is an anti-depressant. While this makes us ‘feel good’, engaging in creative activities can also boost self-esteem, reduce symptoms of anxiety, and increase feelings of happiness and contentment. Creativity is linked to several mental health benefits, and yet…

We learn to color inside the lines and unlearn to think outside the box. We tell kids to stop asking why why why? We over-expose and over-structure, to the point where there’s little time to reflect or to be alone with one’s thoughts. We fill our days to the point where there is no free time. 

Did you know that non-creative behavior is learned? It is not our natural inclination.

Color outside the lines! We were created to be creative...
Nelia Joyce
Temperaments: which of the 4 are you?

In my earlier coaching days, I met a teenager who, to his mother’s dismay, studied by making tiny notes on post-it’s and sticking them to the ceiling in his room.  When crunch time came, he would lie on the floor with binoculars and revise his work. 😊

I find it fascinating how we are all uniquely designed.  Have you noticed that children who grew up in the same household, with the same upbringing can be so different in how they approach life, make decisions and handle situations?  

Temperaments: which of the 4 are you?
Nelia Joyce
Bearing burdens

The COVID-19 pandemic has shaken every aspect of society. Concerns about mental health and substance use are at an all-time high. People stress and worry about contracting the virus, job losses, how long this pandemic will last, as well as the devastating loss of loved ones due to the universal crisis. Amid the fear, worry, and uncertainty, each day seems to bring more challenges than the day before.

We are all suffering. And though my story is not nearly as bad as some of yours, I experienced, quite possibly, the worst 2 months ever.

Bearing burdens
Nelia Joyce
When life happens

Once upon a time, in a land far away, there was a Prince who fought ferociously for the love of his life. He defeated dragons, crossed oceans, and conquered kingdoms. His love astounded her, he made her his Princess and they lived happily ever after.

So, we are told…

When life happens

Anxiety

Camping in Complacency

Camping in Complacency

My parents recently visited from South Africa. And while they are for the most part healthy, active, pleasant people I found myself crippled with fear every time we went somewhere. Should we have gotten travel insurance, does that sneeze imply Covid, are the swollen ankles the last stretch of cardiac failure. Was my Mom always this yellowish color?

 

I usually have a very laid-back approach to life. But for some reason my anxious thoughts overruled my usual ‘go with the flow’, ‘all-is-well’ attitude. I woke up in the middle of the night with nervous knots in my stomach. I nearly cancelled our road trip in exchange for sitting at home and watching my folks grow old. It was surreal. Downright stupid. And although I realized that my fears were undoubtedly irrational, it didn’t change the fact that these were the thoughts that ruled my mind.